2 Peter 2:20-22 NIV
[20] If they have escaped the corruption of the world by knowing our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and are again entangled in it and are overcome, they are worse off at the end than they were at the beginning. [21] It would have been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than to have known it and then to turn their backs on the sacred command that was passed on to them. [22] Of them the proverbs are true: “A dog returns to its vomit,” and, “A sow that is washed returns to her wallowing in the mud.”

My mother often told me, “Don’t eat your vomit.” You see, my mother was referring to accepting people back into your life after they have done you wrong, broken your heart, or cheated on you. My tumultuous life experiences led me to also use “Don’t eat your vomit” to refer to people I trusted, who later betrayed me so fiendishly that it felt as if they stabbed me in the back and twisted the knife.

When someone has wronged you and you have given them opportunity upon opportunity to right their wrong, and they have let you down again, each and every time - you are continuously eating your vomit by allowing them back into your life again, and again.  Can you imagine actually eating your own vomit?  It would likely be an experience that you would not be eager to repeat and from which you would learn an invaluable lesson.  Likewise, in life, when you allow those same people back into your life, it is like giving them a second bullet, because they missed you the first time! You can always use the lessons you learn after you, “Eat your vomit.”

When I spoke with my mother about getting divorced the first time (of course she knew all that had transpired to get to that juncture) and I expressed my uncertainty with my decision, she told me, “You know, you don’t eat your vomit.” And with the second marriage, even after working harder to keep that relationship together than I did with the first marriage; I could hear her words – “Don’t eat your vomit.”

Each time you forgive and forget, it is like having acid reflux. As you are dealing with these tumultuous situations over and over again, you eventually reach a point when you just can’t keep it down, you can’t forgive and forget any longer, so you vomit.

Although we must forgive those who have wronged us, forgiving them doesn't mean that they should be allowed to

continue to mistreat us. Forgive them but allow them to remain in their space, while you remain in yours.  Set healthy

boundaries and require that they respect them. If they do not or cannot, have the wisdom to bid them and the relationship


Luke 17:3-4 NIV
[3] So watch yourselves.
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. [4] Even if they sin

against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying 'I repent,' you must forgive them.”

Heavenly Father, we come to you because many of us continuously give certain people in our lives opportunities to show

us that they can do better or that they can change. Each time we give them another chance, they break our hearts and

disappoint us again. Father, we come to you asking for forgiveness because we are finding it hard to forgive them again;

after we forgave them the last time, and the time before that. Lord, we ask for your help. Let us hear you tell us when

enough is enough, when they show us they cannot and will not change. Help us to forgive them. Father, give us the strength

to remove ourselves from the situation. Lord, we don't want to be like the dog that returns to its vomit. Father, we thank you

and we praise your holy name, in Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

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